Conflict between Heart and Mind

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Heart- I want to talk to him
Mind- You got your self respect

Heart- Let me call him
Mind- He won’t answer your call

Heart- Let me text him
Mind- What if he ignores?

Heart- But we can try once
Mind- There is no point trying

Heart – But i miss him
Mind – Yes, but he does not

Heart- Let me ring him from another number to hear his voice
Mind- You are sounding desperate

Heart- Whatever it sounds, I love him a lot
Mind- He does not, Move on

Heart – I cannot, allow me to love
Mind- You cannot, its of no use

Mind won, but heart was shattered into pieces and each piece cries still.
Heart is willing to talk,
Mind overpowers the heart.

“Follow your heart” have been watchwords for centuries, and with good reason: We know instinctively our heart’s intuition yields the highest outcome. The heart often speaks to us quietly and with common sense. The mind tends to rationalize our desires and reactions

It is nature’s design that you get your head in sync with your deeper heart intent. You can find a new type of fun in listening to your heart as your command center. The fun is gaining back your power not to go back to the mechanical way — the old way of the head. When you do fall back, you replace feeling bad about it with feeling compassion for yourself. Compassion will quickly shift you back into coherence. You stop wasting your energy judging yourself or others. You stop those painful feelings churning inside. You release your own energy and power to do the things that matter most to you. You preserve your health and promote happiness in your relationships. While things still will happen that are extremely unfair or unkind and cause painful feelings, you choose how you are going to handle your emotions. Your choices make all the difference.

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Communication – Importance

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LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Why did we not communicate How we felt, what we wanted, Before you walked out the door.Why did we not tell one another.That we needed more.Why people never say what they mean.Until the other has walked out the door.Both frustrated and felt taken for granted.Both felt as if they were ignored.Both expecting to much from the other.But did nothing until the other walked out the door.Both felt a lack of appreciation.And lacking gratitude.Why is it people never say what they mean.Until the other has walked out the door.Why is it both desperately grieve.Because neither wanted to leave.Why is that they both couldn’t both sit down.And share there feelings.Why do people never say how they feel.Until the other walks out of the door.Why is it they will sacrifice what they’ve got.Rather than simply talk.Why are they willing to self inflict so much pain on themselves.And they still don’t say it one another.They only tell family and friends.And that’s why some relationships end.Because they could not communicate with one another.So one walked out the door.

COMMUNICATION

Communication an important key for the success of any relationship.

Which grows with the period of time and trust.

It may be beautiful at times and sometimes it may be rude.

But it’s important to say what you are thinking.

More important is the choice of words you select while communicating.

It’s important to hear, as important it is to say because you might be the only trusting shoulder.

Remember communication is a two-way process.

Show your gratitude who listens to you and with whom you can open your heart.

Sometimes silence also acts as strong communicator.

Learning the language of communication is an art.

Because it can either make or break any relationship.

But at the end I wish to walk with all my loved ones.

 

 

Live in Relationships-SC Legalization

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The top court held that live-in relationships were now even recognized by the Legislature and they had found a place under the provisions of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005. 

Cohabitation
A living arrangement in which an unmarried couple lives together in a long-term relationship that resembles a marriage.

Live in relationships have been there for many years, only the focus has shifted to them recently. Live in relationships are more common than you might think. With the urban India becoming more open minded and the obvious western influence and students moving out of their homes at early age, live in relationships have become even more prevalent.
But is it really a good idea? Well, there are many positives for sure. There are no complications compared to the kinds you have in a marriage. You can be in the relationship for as long as you want, and this way you keep it fresh and happy. The bondage of being their with each other for the rest of your life might get heavy on your heart and the slightest provocation or disturbance can bring in that fear. This fear is not there in live in relationships.

It is a very personal and subjective matter which might or might not work for everyone. It can be a cause of concern for women more so who might suffer harassment or insecurity being in a relationship that guarantees very little in terms of security.
It might have all the negatives and positives, but it also, like any other relationship, depends on the people involved in the relationship

Pros and Cons of Live in relationships.

“Do not get into live-in immediately after entering a relationship. Take sometime to know and understand each other thoroughly. Even moving in together is a big step and both of you should really want to do it. Else, it is not going to work.

Make sure that you cover your asses. Live-in in India is still taboo, and parents will never, ever approve of it. So, my suggestion will be if you are 200% sure that your and your partner’s parents will be fine with you guys living in, then tell them.

[In a live-in relationship] You both become responsible and matured. The responsibility on each one doubles as both of us have to constantly take care of each other. You get a real taste of marriage. So, basically, think of it as an internship.

Romance blooms and you get comfortable in each other’s physical company. Since physical compatibility is as important as emotional compatibility, you plan romantic weekends, romantic dinners and other things. You get comfortable in each other’s skins. You understand that great sex is not the only thing in great physical compatibility.

Both of you might tend to drift apart from your other set of friends. All the dinners, movies, getaways will generally happen with your live-in partner. So, your friends might feel a bit left out.

Your privacy is reduced. There might be some times that one of you will want to do some activity and other would be interested in something else. You will need to strike a fine balance between both your and your partner’s needs.”

“It’s all about growing as a couple, learning about each other, and never giving up on each other. It’s basically the ‘WE NOT ME’ thumb rule which takes any relationship forward. Though not illegal, but in some countries like India it’s considered to be socially and morally improper still. Though the rate of acceptance is now increasing but a large part of the society is yet to come to terms with it. But then we all need to change and improve ourselves with time don’t we?”

“Some Indian girls are not prepared for live-in. They can only think about marriage and babies a. They treat you more as husband than a boyfriend. they want you to be wise like an old ass but they want freedom to do shits. They don’t have any interesting habit but will join you in every steps (personal space sucks here!). If their life is not happening than you’re responsible for it. Become a joker and entertain her, this is their expectations. But say no to live in.

Mother’s Day

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Being a mom is like no other job in the world, and her job is never done. Unlike a typical 8-to-5 job, motherhood is a “career” often motivated by pure, unwavering love. While she’s responsible for so much, often it may feel as if she goes unappreciated, or at least under-appreciated.

This Sunday we celebrate “Mothers Day”, a day when we not only recognize the woman that we love in our life, but celebrate their commitment and sacrifice to their families. Mothers pay the ultimate sacrifice to their bodies and continue to sacrifice throughout their entire lives to ensure the well being and success of their children.

Where would the world be without mothers? The human race would cease to exist without Mothers. Households would be in total disarray without Mothers. Children would be lost without their Mothers. Husbands would be weakened without their wives, the mother. The Mother is the heart of the home, everything stays together and falls apart, depending on The Mother.

She’s the one who knows you deeply and loves you dearly, all the while instilling the importance of faith in God and a love for others. She takes her role seriously, praying for you, guiding you and serving you as a beautiful reflection of God’s unfailing love.

Let’s reach out to all the moms in our lives to remind them how loved and appreciated they are, and let’s honor and celebrate them with blessing.

Are u brave Enough?

 

 

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She was not naive but she was made to believe so .

she was wise enough to take her decisions but was never given the chance to do so .

Don’t let other people decide whether you are capable of making any decision , The only person who can make decisions for you is your own self .

Life shows up with situations that throw us off the happiness radar. Sometimes, people surprise us, challenges overwhelm us, relationships go sour, toxicity and negative energies drain us and the list goes on.

When things go wrong in our lives, no matter how we strive for happiness, human nature at some point reminds us of our pains and hurts. And the effect of this is that the cloak of unhappiness beclouds our emotions.

Sometimes we get taken for granted in life by people we trust. However, no matter how much we like or love a person or something, we will eventually become tired when taken for granted and when things don’t happen as we envisaged.

No matter how much we love someone who hurts us, our strongest feeling is likely to erode with time when we are not treated rightly.

Therefore, we should know when to say enough is enough. We should know when to walk and leave an unpleasant environment. We should be wary of situations where we have to demean ourselves just because we want to please others.

Once our happiness and peace of mind are threatened, we shouldn’t get entangled in a web of indecisiveness for the sake of our sanity.

Enough is Enough.

Climb That Mountain.

 

“It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.” – Muhammad Ali

Ever felt like a failure? Worthless? Lonely being redemption, broken beyond repair. A waste of time?

Ever felt that it just doesn’t matter?

Ever felt like you couldn’t do something because it was too difficult? Because you were just not good enough? Or smart enough? Or you didn’t have the resources you needed?

Ever felt hopeless, seemingly destined to spend your life daydreaming about what would never be and what was and could no longer be?

Well…were you ever wrong? Did you ever think something that wasn’t real?

You know, those feelings are mistaken as well.

What we feel is not real. Fear is often an illusion. Limits are self-imposed. We are who we chose to be.

I keep writing this, over and over again, because it’s worth remembering, over and over again.

The mountain ahead is not the real test. The real obstacle. The real mountain is your mind. The sky isn’t the limit, your belief system is.

Failure is not fatal, but fear of failure might be.

Of course, you don’t die from it. Not right away in any case. But you are long gone when they’ll finally relocate you to a coffin.

Climb the damn mountain. Find a way or make one, if need be. Move the damn mountain if it’s standing in the way of your goals. Conquer your fears, for they are liars. They are telling you that progress is impossible. They are urging you to waste your life waiting for stuff to just happen to you.

That is not a life worth living.

That is not a life worth fighting for.

That is not life.

You create your own destiny.

You are the one who decides what is real and what is not. You are the one who creates your own reality. So why create a reality in which you are scared? Hopeless? Insecure? Feel bad about yourself?

Create a reality that doesn’t just look good on the outside, but also feels good on the inside.

And you’ve got to conquer those damn mountains.

You have to overcome obstacles.

You have to face your fears.

You’ve got to hope. You’ve got to imagine. You’ve got to set goals and smash them.

Be proud, but never satisfied.

Don’t grow complacent. Don’t wish for comfort and security. Don’t compromise principles.

Be the best version of yourself.

Fight for that self and never stop fighting.

You know what you see when you reach the top of the mountain?

Imagine the view from the top… imagine having to struggle for a long, long time to reach it. Imagine the time and perseverance and countless setbacks. Imagine the fear, the sweat, the tears, the frustration, the anger, the pain…

Imagine the top. Imagine reaching it.

You know what you see?

A hell of a lot more mountains to conquer.

Act of two Faced People.

 

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Two faced people are those actors and actresses of the human race who will show one face to a particular audience, and another face to another audience. The problem their audience have to deal with is they don’t know which face is real. It is a problem because, in real life, interacting with other human beings isn’t a theater act. Gossip and backstabbing have real consequences to the emotions and reputations of people.

Like in a family,relatives speak one to one another that which really doesn’t matter,omg she is so pretty at one end and omg she wears so revealing dress at other end.I am like really ?

This is funny stay on.After marriage a girl makes her husband happy takes care of her child and live in a home given by parents spends money has ego and attitude and on the other hand she works like a slave in her in laws home to show how loving and caring she is only to get more and more money here money is the motto which makes her act two faced.

Characteristic of a two-faced people.

1. Tale teller. A friend who loves to talk about other people. Someone who enjoys spreading rumors and lies about a certain person. They backbite even their closest friend. The miserable the other person feels, the better they feel about themselves.
2. Insecure. Someone who thinks she is in a competition with a friend who she thinks is better than her. This person can’t bear the thought of being less or inferior. Everything that seems better than her is a threat. She needs to be equal or above you.
3. Jealous. Your happiness is a reminder of her unhappiness. She would say that she is happy for you but doesn’t act like it. She will give you backhanded compliments, a kind of compliment that should be taken as an insult.
4. Copycat. Because she has a jealous personality and she doesn’t feel good about herself, she will copy what you have or she simply just want to be like you or someone else. Example: Friend1 bought a nice bag, and Friend2 admits that she likes it and that she will also buy the same bag but with a different color. And mind you, this happens a lot.
5. Blabbermouth. The kind of friend who can’t keep her mouth shut. You tell her stories or secrets about yourself because you trust her, in the end she will tell other people about it.
6. Attention seeker. Ah! The one who wants to be the center of attention. It’s all about her! When she talks, she wants people to listen. But when it’s your turn to share a story, she would go on her phone or act busy. She pretends to be listening but actually she’s not. Well, it’s not about her anyway!
7. Selfish. She won’t help you if she thinks she won’t benefit from it. She only thinks of herself.
8. Liar. She will make up stories just to get people on her side.
9. Manipulative. She knows how to play with your mind and feelings. She will do everything to make things go her way especially lying.
10. User. Yes, the so-called parasites. They will only talk to you if they want something. Considering the fact that they always ask things from you because they don’t want to spend their money. Better yours than theirs.
11. Poser. A friend who always pretend that she is some rich queen bee or something. Example: A friend posting pictures on social media of an expensive restaurant or branded items, even if the picture was copied from google. They don’t feel ashamed. They’re used to it.
12. Show off. A friend who is really confident of her looks or achievements that she would rub it to everyone’s faces.

I learned early in life that two-faced people exist. I’ve learned that the best way to deal with them is to acknowledge such existence and keep in mind that every person is capable of showing one face to me, and another face to everyone else. Given this mindset, I face every person with a combination of friendliness and caution.

Paranoid? You could say that. Its better than beating yourself up wondering who your people really are. Its better to just enjoy people while they’re there, and accept their absence when they’re gone…and never give too much of yourself either way.

So called HOME.

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what’s home ?

A place where all the things are arranged according to room or the people who make it home ?

Family makes home,people in family make home,children,parents,siblings,grandparents,sisters,brothers,cousins make home.

How is that a home where people in same house don’t speak to each other for days together,where talks are murmured in the closed door,where you have to act diligently to sit and walk and talk,where people in home wait to see who will cook today’s dinner,where members just walk out messing the things in home.Is this called home ?

where there are no emotions ,no attachment,no feelings,no love,no care people just walk in and out as if its some hotel or a paying guest where nothing matters because its not there’s. U sit together but none utters a word about anything no laugh no talks no sharing no caring just a huge pile of negativity around.Is this called home ?

Home so untidy,uncleaned,dirty spelling around,books thrown here and there,the bed sheet cover isn’t  neatly pulled down,blanket lying on the floor,tea coffee cups on the table since the sunshine,unwashed utensils piled in the basin,floor with all over shoes and sandals,curtains not covering the glass windows,white sink made yellow and black,material things unwashed and uncleaned.Is this called home??????

HOME ITS A FEELING,FEELING OF LOVE AND EMOTIONS.PEOPLE STRUGGLE TO COME BACK HOME ONLY FOR A FEELING JUST A FEELING AND EVERYTHING FALLS IN PLACE.

Its a place where you are your 100%.HOME is a place where-

The golden morning sunshine brings in,gleaming rays of positive light,the whiff of fresh air,brings with it nature’s fragrance,the songs of the chirpy sparrows,sing a beautiful melody,the dancing blooms in the verandah,greet me with a smile,the children’s giggles and laughter,fills the rooms with an infectious mood,the aromas wafting from the kitchen,lovingly dishes out culinary delights,memories created over a life time,the pain shared together,obstacles overcome, dreams realized,bond us soundly as a unit,the feel and comfort of everything,bestows an immense sense of security,wrapped with love, care and warmth,a humble abode, where I dwell,fills my heart with overflowing joy,making it home sweet home!

 

Be careful when you blow the candles

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We all had that one thing we planned to great detail. That thing that comes to our mind before we blow the candles on our birthday. Thing we think about before everything goes dark. We might have countless dreams about it.. reliving it until it becomes a reality. It might be a house, college, money or something plain and simple.

Mine was.. him.

Countless nights i thought how it would feel to be loved. Truly loved. That love fairytales and cheezy books say happens once in a lifetime. I prayed and cried and begged for one person to love me that way. When i met him my first thought was ‘Thank you God,i found him, my soulmate. In the sea of others somehow our eyes met and now we will never be apart.’ For months and months that was true. He made me happy like no other. I dreamed of him day and night and when i was in his arms it felt right. He protected me from my own demons and fears and never have i felt more loved.

But i realized something along the way… He had demons of his own. They would jump at him at night and make him bitter. He would hurt himself with vile thoughts. I hated seeing him struggle and fight his own mind. I tried to be everything he needed, his raft, a drop of water in the desert, a parachute, anything and everything. I tried to keep him afloat. I tried and i failed.

Over time his thoughts and demons won him over. I tried my best you know, he was the one for me after all and there wasn’t a thing i wouldn’t do. I gave him my soul. My heart. Everything. And it wasn’t enough.

He was gone but still here. He never looked at me the same.

Now i am in love with a shell of a man i once knew. A guy that rips my heart out with one word and no remorse. You can’t get all you want how you want it, right?

I am trapped but don’t want to escape.

I want to let go, but I can’t.

I got what i always wanted, but I didn’t.

Funny isn’t it.. I always wanted a soulmate.

Life opens up many unexpected changes, beautiful possibilities and even some disastrous heartbreak. That’s how life is – it’s spontaneous, amazing, painful and yet, undeniably fulfilling.

Who ever is reading this,Wonderful birthday.

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“Love is an unconditional commitment to a person. To love somebody isn’t just a strong feeling. It is a decision, a judgement, and a promise.”

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Loving and committing to another person is a spiritual process whether it involves a wedding or any other type of commitment ceremony. Often when we enter into a relationship, we allow our emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what a true commitment involves. If we understand that sharing our lives with another person is not just based on love but also on hard work of being compromise and enter into a dialogue with them,then we are much more likely to find the key to having a successful relationship with our partners.

So many people have not experienced a loving relationship between their own parents and therefore have no role model of what love should feel like or look like.

“We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.” 

LOVE……hahhhahah

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I love the way you stare at me
With hatred in your eyes
I love the way you torture me
With insults through your sighs

I can see you want to hurt me
When your smile starts to crack
I love your half hearted apologies
As you try to take it back

I love the way you put me down
When you push me with your hands
The rush of blood runs through my head
When I try to stand

I love how you have trapped me,
Confused in my own mind
The conditions that you set for me
The harsh ones underlined

If looks could kill…

I know you would pull the trigger.

love..hahhahhh…

Blame Game

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All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame them, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming them, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy – Wayne Dyer

The blame game is like spin the bottle, we keep spinning and who ever it stops at takes the blame for whatever is wrong at that moment. Sadly, the blame game is not a fun game. It just keeps you on the same spot and makes you feel like the victim and never a Victor over your circumstances.

I think people blame others for their actions or situations because it’s easier to do that than live with the consequences of what they have done. Other times, it’s because they are scared of being blamed or judged for what’s wrong with them that needs to change. their feeling of insecurity, low self esteem and low self confidence not only in them but also in their capabilities.

Yes! Sometimes it’s someone’s fault but when we know it’s our fault or we contributed to the problem, do we accept it or do we pass the baton to someone else?

Most of us get A+ in “pointing finger” test.
But have we seen 3 other fingers directed at our chest?
How come it’s easier to say that it is not our fault;
When our existence is the reason of it all?

Next time the blame game comes calling, laugh and give it a big NO! I am not playing this game anymore.

How did you end your blame game? share with me in the comment section♥

GREED

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All of us have seen the love of money change a person. Whether you’re a Officer,Doctor,Engineer, or the beneficiary of a life insurance policy or will, the results remain the same… money changes people. It helps us acquire what we want, but when we value money, more than our family, friends, dignity, and spirituality, we become enslaved by it. Instead of letting it serves us for our purposes, money can becomes the motivation for our actions. Many see this as evil.

Greed cultivates an overwhelming desire for more wealth and materialism which leads down a dark path of being unsatisfied and unhappy. It can be intentional but more often it exists in subtle, disguised forms.

A subtle form of greed that affects families is a lack of communication and sense of entitlement. Withholding information, on the surface, seems like an effective way to prevent younger generations from being plagued wealth’s negative effects. But it can quickly emerge as a way to not relinquishing power or identity, resulting in a refusal to share information.

You see, the true danger of greed is that one becomes so obsessed with the object of his or her desire that it becomes the only thing that is important. Someone possessed by greed develops tunnel vision and in that tunnel, they can see only their own selfish desire.

Greedy people walk all over the rights and needs of others and to them it is no big thing. They, along with their needs, are the only things that count. A greedy husband or wife makes a miserable marriage. A greedy politician makes a miserable life for his or her constituents. A greedy boss makes miserable employees. I could go on, but I know you get the point.

Ultimately, greed is a sign of emptiness. If you find yourself grasping after things in life, worried that you won’t get what you want, what you need, or what you deserve, you have put your trust in the wrong place. Greed will use you up without giving anything in return because it’s an unscrupulous desire for wealth and power. It does not have a heart or concern for the damage it causes. Greed is infectious and alienates the individual from family, friends and their moral center. It is a selfish act that benefits only the greedy individual temporarily.

Remember, “whatever we sow, we shall reap.” Why not focus your life on positive seeds that will reap love. Material things will come and go. A good reputation will allow you to sleep well at night. Meditate on these words and live a happy, good life without the negative effects of greed.

Overcoming greed requires a lot of effort and discipline. It isn’t easy, but it can be done. It’s all a matter of taming your ego. An important reminder  Where there’s greed, there’s danger.

AnxieTY

“Anxiety makes you sit there and overthink every single things. At times it makes you think people in your life are leaving you. You begin to feel abandoned, and not worth of anything because the most important people in your life don’t want you.”

Anxiety has one goal, and it’s to destroy people. And sometimes it does.

“Anxiety attack” is not normal, but one that is used by many people to describe all sorts of things, from feeling worried about an upcoming event to intense feelings of terror or fear that would meet a panic attack.

Sometimes anxiety is a person simply sitting there.Sometimes anxiety is a person lashing out at the people they love in an explainable rage for no apparent reason.Sometimes anxiety is a person feeling paranoid even when nothing’s wrong.Sometimes anxiety is a person who pushes love away instead of letting love comfort them.Sometimes anxiety isn’t seen but it’s always felt.

Why Is Anxiety More Common Now? For an example=SOCIAL MEDIA

Social media is a huge part of our generation and although it helps us stay connected and makes us more aware about what is going on around the world, it can be a very likely cause of anxiety. We are all well too aware of how addicting social media can be. Scrolling through our Instagram/Twitter/Facebook feeds day and night can quickly turn in to a vicious cycle of constant comparison and feeling like we aren’t good enough Comparing our real lives to those perfectly filtered photos of relatives/celebs on luxurious weekends having the time of their lives can most certainly start to take a toll on us. We might feel like we are not good enough or that our lives aren’t as amazing. This type negative thinking only make things worse. Also, the lack of face to face interaction that comes about from excessive social media usage could also be harmful sometimes. I believe it is always a good idea to have a little social media detox and keep yourself in tune with what’s going around you rather than living your life through a screen!

Sometimes anxiety terrifies everyone around us as we gasp for air and struggle to breathe, but sometimes anxiety can look like nothing, and not even the people we love the most can tell.

And that’s why anxiety is the greatest destroyer of all.

 

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

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Don’t look at me like this,
Everyday is so wonderful
Then suddenly
It’s hard to breathe
Now and then I get insecure
From all the pain
I am beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today

And everywhere I go 
The sun will always shine .